Here's 3 quick and effective strategies to use with sibling rivalry that I teach from Positive Discipline. https://youtu.be/gg5kOcl6HtU Fighting is an everyday occurrence in our house with 4 kids / teens! I'm amazed at how affected I am emotionally when my kids fight - it is often the time when I need to use all… Continue reading What to do when my kids are fighting?
What do you & your child need?
Recently I did something out of the ordinary - I went for a walk, in the sun, in the middle of a weekday...just because.....and it felt like a HOLIDAY! It felt glorious! I felt so grateful! Even though it was a walk I do often - it was at a different time of day ....… Continue reading What do you & your child need?
How to find your inner calm & calm down your kids?
What do you do to stay calm or calm down? I'd love to know what works for you..... I had to use all the mindfulness skills available to me earlier this week to keep calm....and then when I erupted (oops!) - to recover quickly! No-one can push our buttons like our kids can - and… Continue reading How to find your inner calm & calm down your kids?
We are often told that mindfulness is about not dwelling on or ruminating in the past and about being present. Yet at times it is healthy to remember the past or plan for the future - as my mindfulness teacher would say 'just do it mindfully!' Today is my daughter's 14th birthday and it has… Continue reading Mindful Memories
Take a minute to reflect on how it feels to be really listened to, and how it feels to be only partially or hardly listened to! Start noticing today when this happens....and then begin to notice when you really listen - and when you don't... I thought I was a good listener until I did… Continue reading Mindful Listening
It’s not perfect… it is as it is ….and within that are some really great moments!
I was really lucky recently to be able to go camping on Moreton Island, QLD with my partner and four kids for 8 nights with just the basics (e.g. cold showers).... and it really felt like a retreat from the world as we slept, snorkelled, kayaked, ate and slept some more! But as the layers fell and we… Continue reading It’s not perfect… it is as it is ….and within that are some really great moments!
The Big Squeeze – between reality & our aspirations / expectations…
I've just read Pema Chodron's book 'Start Where You Are: How To Accept Yourself & Others', a really comforting book to read! One concept that I loved and applies to my life right now is the 'Big Squeeze' the idea that for all of us there is a conflict between our current reality and our aspirations… Continue reading The Big Squeeze – between reality & our aspirations / expectations…
Social Approval…..can we be mindful of this need?
As I have recently moved states, moved towns, changed jobs...I've been thinking a lot about something that Russ Harris (The Happiness Trap / Act Mindfully) talks about.... If you have studied mindfulness then you will probably be aware of the latest brain research that shows that our emotional brain (amygdala / limbic system) sends out alarm… Continue reading Social Approval…..can we be mindful of this need?
Conflicting desires for our children…and being mindful of them…
Following on from my last blog I've been thinking a lot about the conflicting desires we have for our children... I was particularly fascinated with a comment made on the 'Life at 9' series on ABC iview about the fact that we want our children to be persistent... But we also want our children to… Continue reading Conflicting desires for our children…and being mindful of them…
Mindfulness & Children
My Favourite way of explaining the brain to children but also to parents! Thank you Dan Siegel! Mostly I am so flat out with life and trying to be more mindful myself that I must admit I don't do enough teaching of mindfulness to my 4 children....not as much as I would like to anyway! … Continue reading Mindfulness & Children